I was talking with a good friend today and saw someone in a healthy chapter of her life. A chapter that I hope to reach soon. I realized how much of my anxiety comes from the false sense that I am never enough, that my existence isn’t worthy due to how many people I had to release from my life. My sense of being alone as a result of doing or “being” wrong is a lie from hell. I ended the day with God speaking to me these words. To my readers, I hope these words below help you:

When you begin to miss the narcissistic, severely scarred and ego driven people that are no longer in your life you must remember this– you did not lose their presence. You gained their absence.

Continue on the path of letting them go and wishing them well from afar. Don’t stray due to old habits of wondering what you could have done better. Don’t go back to seeking external validation but run towards sanity.

Sanity = Valuing you.

True freedom is when you are in a nuetral space where resentments or false hopes no longer exist. THAT is where God exists and it is the best epiphany you will ever experience.

#MirrorTalk #Free #Sanity


Mirror Talk: Be Still

Mirror Talk: Be Still And Know

It is unthinkable to you, the advice to just be still and know that soon the next instruction will come to you. There is an unseen battle going on and you are in the middle. The battle are arrows coming at every direction as the familiar belief systems try to push back on new spiritual realizations. You were not taught that you don’t have to do anything to get your good in life. You were not taught to just “be”, that your existence alone is valuable. In the physical world, the good things in life only come to those who do something about it, show initiative and get to moving. Yet the constant busyness of doing is a coping mechanism of the fear that if you sit back and wait, you aren’t earning whatever you deem is equivalent to the energy you exerted to make “it” happen. Waiting does not diminish you. Waiting does not diminish the possibilities you fear will pass you by. Waiting does not mean that you will have to yet again watch someone else get the benefits. As you live your day to day life with an outlook that the delay will forever loom over you, it feels like you are wondering in a dark room frantically trying to find the light switch. Stop roaming the darkness. Stop trying to make something out of the nothing that is happening, wondering why you always seem to be the only human in a state of struggle to get the ball rolling. If you always feel the need to be in control of a situation because of those who appear to get what they want with ease, you will miss what is divinely being set up for your next chapter. The difference between those who do and those who receive is willingness. You must be willing to receive. Receiving means trusting that God is aware of what you specifically need, desire and deserve. Deserving is a function of being. Being devoted to opening yourself to receive the grace and goodness. Being still and knowing that you are in a divinely timed receiving line. It’s God’s divine timing Doing is not a function of receiving, existing is. Don’t “do”, just “be”. Be willing to receive. Waiting and willingness to see that it’s the simple value of you, not your “do”, that opens the door. Once you are still and truly know that your do is not your who, beautiful outcomes will arrive. Be still and know.

Psalm 46:10

10 Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.

#MirrorTalk #BeStill #Waiting


Mirror Talk: Manifest

I saw this sentence in a bible plan I am reading and decided to share why I write my “Mirror Talk” blog.  Most of the time when I stand in front of a mirror, glance at my car visor or see my reflection in a window, the self-talk is automatically negative.  Not sure how long ago I started trying to say nicer words to myself but I stand in front of a mirror and sometimes mentally or verbally say nice things to myself purposely.  I have to make a conscious effort to say nice things to my reflection out loud or mentally but even then the negative chatter is not all the way silent and buzzes in the background like the fan in my bedroom I have to hear in order to fall asleep at night.  Isn’t that sad to do that to myself?  And I am just one person among the billions on this earth that do this very same thing multiple times a day.   Given what I know about my mind, the one superpower I know I would never want to be handed is the ability to read people’s minds.  Hearing and reading my mind alone is enough to listen to all day.  I am sure you, the reader, also deal with this overwhelming tendency to negate your existence and the vessel that you occupy.

I began “Mirror Talk” for this very reason – to envision myself speaking to my reflection the very words that I write and share with you.  I write my inspirational advice for myself and for the multitudes that share similar battles that do not only surround us but exceeds the max occupancy inside our heads.  The worst war that can ever occur are the wars that are spiritual because it is the fire of insults we aim at ourselves as we argue back like a movie scene where the actors justify what they yell at each other.  We are the rigid judge that hangs over our shoulder, whispering in our ears as we go about our day.  It is so unfair and unnecessary but the only way I know how to remind myself is to say something nice to myself as I look into my eyes.  Why is it so hard?  With every positive sentence is the echo of the degrading sounds that I must push away every millisecond.  My brain is a road map filled with too many highways where negative words speed back and forth.  Mirror Talk slows down that highway and as you read my words, may you envision yourself looking back at that mirror with a sense of value and realization that the person staring back at you has a multitude of gifts to offer this world.  May the mirror begin to reflect the potential that lies within and flows outward, manifesting a new kind of day where the chatter highway is redirected with kinder words to ourselves and therefore towards people or situations that appear in front of us throughout our days here on this earth.

I hope that as you read my Mirror Talk blogs that you envision saying, to that human  looking back at you, the positive fulfilling words with intention to rebuild on a foundation of new belief systems.  It isn’t about flexing a false bravado but learning to stand in our truth as we look at what God created with an appreciation of what we can contribute.  It isn’t based on what the mirror seems to never reflect in comparison to other’s expectations but reflects the gifts contained behind the eyes. 

Let’s talk nicely to the mirror and let God work out the blind priority of the superficial imperfections that are the world’s force fed materialistic nature and get connected to the spiritual nature that is the driving force of all that is accomplished or have yet to overcome.   I want to stop compromising or apologizing for the passions I contain and start liking the person that God encircles as she faces the fact that the light that refracts back towards her is the light that wants to exude from within her…don’t you?

May our mirror talk lovingly, drowning out and no longer compromising with the bully that is the layer of ghosts of self.  May our mirror talk unapologetically but humbly pull out the affirmations of our Holy Spirit until we can automatically hear only the kind chatter that exists in all of us.  May we value what God has made.

#MirrorTalk #ManifestYourTruth #GodsReflection


Mirror Talk: Mindfull vs Mindful

Medium Article Mindful

Romans 11:20 Be humbly mindful of the root that keeps you lithe and green.

You are so busy accepting the chatter in your brain as part of your life. You don’t realize it is filling up your mind with what isn’t done, what was not done “enough”, what was done “too much” and what will not get done in present. Your head is so full of the mental illustrations you grew used to and you are never fully attending to what’s happening, to what you’re doing, to the space you’re moving through now. You often feel annoyed with the fact that you so often veer from the matter at hand. Your mind becomes a freeway, you lose touch with your body, and pretty soon you’re engrossed in obsessive thoughts about something that just happened or fretting about the future. Although you are not showing your state of mind on the outside, on the inside you feel anxious and restless. You are in a spinning cycle with no off switch. Your mind is full, and you are exhausted before you even start.

Being mindfull is being overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around you.

Being mindful is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where you are and what you’re doing. It is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique in the beginning but with the intent that it becomes a lifestyle in which you can be in a much lesser stress level because you have re-learned and re-planted the roots.

You must re-learn, or learn for the first time, how to be grounded. To be where your feet are throughout each section of your day must start by offsetting the negative, overwhelmed thoughts that seem to settle in you before you even lift your head off the pillow. Offset the thoughts of to do lists and anxiety and despair that each day is just another set of what you need to do for others. Choose new thoughts, soak in positive affirmations to quiet the chatter of tasks turning in your spirit. It is okay to take care of you too. It is okay to stop the all or nothing attitude. It is okay to start with new positive thoughts before lifting your head from the pillow.

An idle mind is just like an engine running in a car that is sitting in a garage- full of hot, poisonous smoke.

Re-plant your thoughts with conscious conversations with yourself. You must think about what you’re thinking about. Give yourself permission to take the time to re-train your brain and get connected to the root of why you feel the need to be somewhere else besides the space you currently occupy. If something is always about to go wrong, whether where you are now or the “where” you are supposed to be later, “where” does that leave you? In limbo, an engine running and revved up so high that it implodes.

The internal conversation where you ask yourself if half the negative scenarios you have stirred in the pot in the past have even come to pass is a good start. The realization that they haven’t will be a momentous epiphany. Then, if all that you have to handle in the day ahead of you has you immobilized, start with the smallest step first. Part of your anxiety, in fact ALL of your anxiety stems from the root of the false notion that you control all the outcomes. It is a lie. There is a center of the universe but you ain’t it! What isn’t handled perfectly will not always fall to pieces. Release the vision of a quest for a perfect outcome. The outcome occurs in a future that contains circumstances and people that you do not, nor ever did, control.

Stop thinking about how to begin the perfect first step and get up. Show up for your life, remembering that if any part of it goes to hell, you can start your day over at any time. That is the only thing that is up to you.

Then, when it is all said and done (and even if it isn’t ALL done!) — meditate. Pray. You must clean out all the external junk from the day. Meditate, meditate, meditate. Don’t be dismayed by the mental chatter as you try to lay down. Let the negative scenarios flow in and flow out. Keyword: Flow. Let the thoughts of negative scenarios or words arrive but don’t let them stick. Let them arrive and then let them go. Wrap your mind around only the positive words that water the seeds for self-love, loving thoughts of circumstances and loving thoughts of others. Let these new roots be embedded to hold your thoughts in alignment with your physical position of the present.

Your inner mind movies must change in order for your perception of your external reality to change, not the other way around. You must be patient with yourself. Being nice to your mind takes practice. Meditation isn’t about being in denial about the daily unfairness or toxic situations you experience. Meditation is a solution to feeling balanced in your thought, no longer a teeter totter puppet where its next movement is ran by a negative force. If all humans had a serene mind 24/7, meditation wouldn’t need to exist. You aren’t alone in struggling to sit still and not avoid your thoughts. When you realize that you are being the self-defeating mindfull chatterbox and instead start being spiritually present, you can rest well at night knowing that being mindful becomes a good thing through meditation.

You got a new day tomorrow. Stop thinking about it because it’s going to turn out the way it’s going to turn out. You aren’t meant to direct the future so learn to follow these spiritual directions and go to sleep.

Stop being mindfull and start being mindful.

Good night.

And don’t let the chatter bugs bite. Meditate.

#PMaffirmation #MirrorTalk #GodShots #Mindful


“Mirror Talk: Mindfull vs Mindful” by Stefanie Johnson https://link.medium.com/TCudXZHJNX